Communication

People of two opposing ideas can provoke discussion and arguments. Is that the situation when you think you have the right concept while the other one also believes he has the right idea. Both try to outsmart until one claims victory. Here's a real example. My girlfriend Riza, sometimes buy me signature clothing.

When my Mom founds how much it costs, they advise us to budget our money and just buy the affordable. A problem occurs when Riza thinks that was not appreciated their efforts for giving me the best. Mom, on the other hand, would think that Riza is a spender. There is a conflict with their beliefs. No two people are exactly alike. We are totally unique, not only physically but also mentally and emotionally.

There will be many times that his opinion does not correspond with that of another. So how can people prevent such conflicts from occurring? Communication is the key to overcome doubts and misunderstandings. You should let other people know what's on your mind. Do not keep waiting. There was a story of two couples who were filing for divorce. After the lawyer have spoken to both, he learned that the root cause of all their problems was due to the lack of communication. Here is one of the problems of the couple. The man filing the divorce said that he hated the breakfast meal that his wife often prepared for him. On the other hand, the woman said she's only preparing the meal because she thought it was a favorite of her husband. But he did not like cooking because it is very difficult to prepare. See? If only one of them took the initiative to talk about what's on your mind, that particular dilemma would have ended. Now, why people prefer to keep their complaints and criticisms to themselves? What is holding back? It is because they want to be rejected. Most people, if not all, would like to be accepted and be perceived as pleasing to the eyes of others. So your message can be transmitted without hurt his feelings? Substitute negative statements with positive ones. Instead of saying "I do not understand," he says, 'Let me explain. " Rather than watching the "You're wrong," say "Let me clarify." Instead of saying "You do not say," just mention "Perhaps this was not stated." There are certain words that affect a person more negatively in comparison with other words that have the same meaning. Nothing could be more pleasing to the ear to hear someone say otherwise you're right. In this case, be prepared to let others know that you respect their opinions. You may add your comments at the end, but acknowledge that in the first place. Say: You're right, though … Great suggestion, however … I agree with your opinion, however … I feel the same if I were you, though … I understand your situation, however … Reassure your counterparts that the decision will benefit both sides. People need to feel that they have made the right choice. Communication is a gift. Assal wisely for the benefit of all. Michael Lee is the author of "How To Be A Red Hot Persuasion Wizard, an electronic book that reveals the secrets of how easy to make friends, fully improve your relationships, multiply your profits, win negotiations and to achieve freedom and power. Visit to grab a sample chapter.